This blog began at Jude's birth, solely for his faraway extended family. We wanted to make as much effort as we could to keep our family involved in his everyday life, when in reality they're only able to visit him a few times a year. However, many more people have become followers of this blog. Therefore, I feel the need to clarify that we've never shared such personal information as you will read in the post today.
Jude is going to be a big brother.
This is the beginning our adoption story.
We weren't those people who ever considered adoption to be in our future. We just didn't see ourselves doing adoption. We always knew we would somehow be involved in taking care of the fatherless, just never could have conceived that it would be through adoption. As some of you know, we were foster parents before getting pregnant with Jude in Massachusetts for teenagers in the system. After Jude came along, we put that on hold and figured that once our kids were a little older and the crib was empty, we'd begin foster care again, with little babies next time. It has been in the back of our minds since receiving Jude that fostering babies would one day just become our nitch.
However, all that has changed. It has changed in the same way God always changes our hearts---unexpectedly, with tears, laughter, confusion, and finally delight. For whatever reason, we began to see our hearts change somewhere around October 2011. It's hard to say how, or exactly when, but adoption began to settle into our hearts. It feels incredibly good to be on this journey and to be so certain this is where God intends us to be.
So as to share our overwhelming joy at our present pursuit of adoption, and so as to possibly rub off on some other unexpected parents, we've outlined below our reasons for making this decision.
1. There are 147 million orphans worldwide. Let that soak in. 147 million little children without a family. There are simply more children than infertile parents. Therefore, adoption for us is not our "Plan B." This child waiting for us, is our Plan A, and we will exhaust all our energy, time, money, and prayers for our little one.
2. This is the most "pro-life" thing we can do in our lifetime. We find it difficult to express our pro-life views because it is obviously heavy laden with complicated issues. Mostly being that we have had dear, dear, friends who have abortion in their past, and Auburn particularly has watched dear counseling clients choose abortion time and again. If we are to believe with every conviction, that abortion should not be an option, if we are to plead with mothers, "I know this is a bleak time in your life, I know this pregnancy has interrupted everything about your life, I know this baby has the potential to end what your preconceived dreams were for your life, but please, please endure 9 months, and please, please give your baby up for adoption." If we are to make that case, then we have to be among the first to stand in the gap for these mothers and adopt their babies. For us, and for this season in our life, we cannot be pro life, and not adopt.
3. God has adopted us. Everyday of Jude's life we attempt to present the Gospel to him. Whether that's deliberately through stories and scripture, or whether it's how we live our everyday lives minute by minute. It seems to us that by choosing adoption, we are able to tell Jude and our future children (adopted and biological), in a very tangible way how God has adopted us first. We will explain that adoption was God's idea from the beginning of time. We will be able to explain that all of us were "unwanted," but we were pursued by God, and we were grafted into His family. We will be able to explain that we were once on the outside of God's promises, but now we are called Jesus's brothers and sisters and now we are heirs. We will explain that Moses, Ruth, and Jesus all have adoption stories.
4. We simply want more children! We simply want our family to expand and we have come to believe that it does not matter either way whether the means are through biological children or adopted children. Over the past few months it has become very clear that we have a child somewhere else in the world that was always intended to be ours, from the beginning of time. It's our job to find her, fight for her, and bring her home.
5. Scripture explains that, "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world." ~James 1:27
Simply put, we are overjoyed with our decision and what the next year holds for us. Once we made the decision to adopt it felt like we were 5 weeks pregnant again. (Not showing any signs of a baby bump, but constantly thinking of our precious new life growing.) We have marveled at how this adoption process had mimicked pregnancy with Jude. We have the same feelings, worries, prayers, and lack of control as we had during the pregnancy.
As we began telling family and friends, we were told time and again the joys that come with adoption, but also of the terrible wait, the paper chase, and the bureaucracy involved in the whole process. We are just a few months into finding our little girl (yes, we're adopting a DAUGHTER!), and already we've been blindsinded by unexpectancies, disappointments, and closing doors. From day one of realizing we had a little Hutson girl somewhere else in the world, and we need to bring her home, we've been fighting what seems like an uphill battle. We read in a really great book (Adopted for Life by Russell Moore), that adoption isn't war, but it is spiritual warfare. And after just a few months, this is a real reality for us, and one that leaves us with no option but to beg you for your prayers.
We're excited about bringing everyone up to date on our very present joy and our anticipation of bringing home Jude's sister. Like I said earlier this blog was intended to solely post pics of Jude, but now it's going to evolve into adoption updates and ramblings as well. I've taken great encouragement and soaked up every word of blogs from other adopting families and hope some of our ramblings can do the same for someone else.
We have started work with America World Adoption Agency, and are working in their pilot program with India. During this whole process, it has been a very clear leading from the Lord that we were to adopt, and over the last 6 months it has been even clearer that we are to adopt from India.
ABC's 20/20 did a report just a few months ago on the horrific infanticide that's been occurring among female babies in India, and you can read their report and watch numerous videos of the episode here.
Join us in welcoming our next little Hutson into the world, and pray with us that God would bring her home quickly and smoothly.